“Can you be Christian and Gay?
Can Christians support Same-Sex Marriage?”
The entire Bible unambiguously defines marriage between one man and one woman; outside that we are called to sexual purity/celibacy:
1 Cor 6:9-11
1 Thess 4:3-8
A Look at a few of the “Gay” Christian Arguments
Love is the fulfillment of the Law and does no harm to its neighbor. But the church’s teaching that homosexual practice is sin has done tremendous harm to many fine LGBT people and is therefore not loving. If we are to love our neighbor as ourself, then we must affirm our LGBT brothers and sisters.*
It is true that may “gay” people have been wounded by the Church. We have not done a good job of learning about the issue, reaching out with compassion to them. We often pretend that we don’t see them and that they are not in our presence. But the greatest expression of love is to tell people God’s truth knowing that his ways are right and best.
– You don’t tell people in a burning house that their house is not really burning; they are OK where they are and they don’t have to change their position. That is not love
– As Christians we are called to love not disdain our neighbor – and at the same time not to compromise with or condone the homosexual lifestyle.
– Many ex-gay Christians say that one of the things that opened their eye to the deception of homosexuality was the love they received from Christian men and women (see the article “Former Lesbian Reveals the Real Reason She was Drawn to the Gay Lifestyle”)
Love the person trapped or deceived in the Homosexual Lifestyle – Yes
Compromise with or Affirm the Homosexual Lifestyle – No, that is not love
While Jesus spoke against divorce and adultery, He never said a word about homosexuality. You can’t find the word “homosexual” anywhere in the New Testament.*
It’s dangerous to use an argument from silence, but in reality Jesus reaffirmed and deepened the sexual morals of the Law. He stated that all sexual morals of the Law. He stated that all sexual acts outside of marriage defile us, and He stated emphatically that marriage as God intended referred to the lifelong union of one man and one woman. He addressed the issue at lease three different ways –
– Jesus didn’t have to condemn homosexual behavior anymore than he needed to condemn bestiality, or incestuous unions – every member of the Jewish community already knew these acts were an abomination to God. It did not have to be a major issue for him.
– Matthew 5:17-20 (part of the Sermon on the Mount); Jesus makes clear that he did not come to “abolish the Law or the Prophets..but to fulfill them”.
– Matthew Chp15/Mark Chp 7; the Greek word for “sexual immorality” –porneia – occurs in the plural here = “sexual immoralities”; Jesus stated clearly that all sexual acts outside of marriage are defiling and sinful; listed side by side with evil thoughts, murder, theft, lying, slander, murder, deceit etc.
– Matthew 19:4-6; Jesus made a definitive statement about God’s intent in marriage when asked by the religious leaders about his views on divorce; God’s intent was one man and one woman – anything else was outside his intent.
Jesus had a lot to say about homosexual behavior
He confirmed the universal, moral principles of the Torah, which included a strict prohibition against homosexual practice.
He stated that all sexual unions outside of marriage were defiling, proceeding out of the uncleanness of the human heart.
He explicitly affirmed the male-female, divinely established order of marriage.
The Church has become judgmental and homophobic to the point that many LGBT young people have actually killed themselves. Jesus taught us not to judge.*
Some Christians may be judgmental and even hateful, which is wrong and inexcusable, but as followers of Jesus we are called to recognize the difference between right and wrong, to make proper moral judgments rather than be judgmental and condemning. As for the message that we preach, the gospel brings life, not death, and kids who commit suicide normally have other emotional problems. If we really love them, we will try to address those problems rather than just affirm their sexual and romantic desires.
– There are sociologists who state that this type of “suicide talk” actually contributes to their high suicidal rates by planting seeds of instability, hopelessness, and self-destruction in their hearts.
– Walt Heyer (a man who had a sex-change surgery and lived for years as a woman only to try to reverse his surgery) “the fact that someone threatens to commit suicide if they cannot be affirmed as gay or change their gender identity is proof that there are other issues that need to be addressed”
– Because we don’t agree and will not compromise does not make us homophobic
– John 7:24 “Do not judge according to external appearance, but judge with proper judgment”;
– Sermon on the Mount requires us to make proper judgments:
– “casting pearls before swine” = recognizing the kind of people who will just mock our message
– “whom we will know by their bad fruit” = recognizing false prophets
– recognizing the speck that is in our brother’s eye so we can remove it once we have removed the beam from our own eye
– I Corinthians 5:11-13; we are required to judge moral behavior; if someone claims to be a follower of Jesus and is living in open unrepentant sis, we are to “judge” him and break off all fellowship with him.
“Can you be Christian and Gay? Can Christians support Same-Sex Marriage?”
The Bible says – No
The Creator of Christianity and it’s name sake – Jesus says – No
“No…you cannot be gay and Christian…you can have homosexual feelings which you must fight minute to minute, day to day, month to month, year to year…but you cannot be intimate with a man and be Christian…I have tried…with utter and dismal emotional failure.” – Randy, listener and correspondence with Dr. Brown*
(* Michael Brown, (2014) Can you be gay and Christian?)
“Can you have Doubt and be a Christian?”
John 7:17; 12:37
What is the root of your doubts?
How do you deal with doubt?
What doubts do you wrestle with?